Infant obituaries, memorial, funeral bulletins needed

I know this is an odd request---but if you have lost a baby and have written an obituary or memorial and/or had a funeral for him/her, would you be willing to share that information with me? I am posting samples of actual obituaries, memorials and funeral bulletins at my Dekar Memorial site. I started that site to honor and remember my son, but most people find it because they are looking for sample obituaries for babies.

I am willing to "sanitize" it in order to protect privacy. You can contact me through the BabyDekar site. Thank you.

Hope

I had never heard this song before today. It fits in so perfectly with Dekar's memorial ornament. The music is embedded on the left sidebar. With Hope, by Steven Curtis Chapman.

This is not at all how
We thought it was supposed to be
We had so many plans for you
We had so many dreams
And now you've gone away
And left us with the memories of your smile
And nothing we can say
And nothing we can do
Can take away the pain
The pain of losing you, but ...

We can cry with hope
We can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end, oh no
And we can grieve with hope
'Cause we believe with hope
(There's a place by God's grace)
There's a place where we'll see your face again
We'll see your face again

And never have I known
Anything so hard to understand
And never have I questioned more
The wisdom of God's plan
But through the cloud of tears
I see the Father's smile and say "Well done"
And I imagine you
Where you wanted most to be
Seeing all your dreams come true
'Cause now you're home
And now you're free, and ...

We can cry with hope
We can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end, oh no
And we can grieve with hope
'Cause we believe with hope
(There's a place by God's grace)
There's a place where we'll see your face again
We'll see your face again

We have this hope as an anchor
'Cause we believe that everythingGod promised us is true, so ...

So we can cry with hope
And say goodbye with hope

We wait with hope
And we ache with hope
We hold on with hope
We let go with hope

Dekar's memorial ornament, 2008

For quite a while I have been looking for a Christmas ornament that really reminded me of Dekar. Today, I found it. I’ve been having some rough days and finding an ornament in memory of Dekar helped to lighten my mood and make my soul smile. It isn’t really an “ornament”, but that’s okay. Here it is:
Although I miss Dekar like crazy I have the promise that I will see him again; I have HOPE because of Christ. A little boy, joyfully displaying a HOPE balloon caught my attention, and I knew it was meant for me.

“Hope is symbolized in Christian iconography by an anchor. And what does an anchor do? It keeps the ship on course when wind and waves rage against it. But the anchor of hope is sunk in heaven, not on earth.”
~~Gregory Floyd, A Grief Unveiled

(The above figurine can be found here. Willow Tree® by Susan Lordi –”Hope”, stock #26163)

Decluttering success

I am pleased with how much I've passed on to the rummage sale so far. It was so easy to just get rid of stuff. I think since I've already lost a most treasured possession all the earthly material stuff fades in comparison.

Some of the items which are no longer in my house are a futon mattress, waffle cushion, a dresser mirror, along with a few larger baby items.

I also got rid of some books and clothes, but not as much as I'd like. In time I'll get to all of them.
I don't know how much I'll get to pack up tomorrow since I have appts. It's all good---there is a visual difference in my storage area. I was able to compact what I saved into a smaller area, so that helps make me feel like I accomplished something

A nomadic lifestyle is very attractive to me right now. When I look around the house there is nothing that I can see that holds my heart----the only things that matter are my children, my husband, and my memories of Dekar.

Dekar's slideshow, courtesy of NILMDTS/Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep

To see the beautiful rememberance work that NILMDTS does, go to my blog which is dedicated to Dekar: Remembering the Life
I am working on getting a file that I can upload directly, but until then you can view it through the link and password posted at Dekar's blog.